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The Coldhearted Young Master Chases His Tough Wife

There are three reasons for not mourning a death: fear, disgust, and drowning.

Tang Jianxue

Earthly Records

The Master said: “Benevolence has numbers, and righteousness has lengths, shortnesses, smallnesses, and greatnesses. To be indifferent in the heart is to love the benevolence of others; to follow the law and strengthen it is to have resources The benevolent man. The Book of Songs says: 'There is a mulberry tree in Fengshui, how could King Wu not serve? He passed on his plan to his grandson and swallowed his son. King Wu was so kind!' It is the benevolence of several generations. The Guofeng says: 'I am not going to review it now, but the emperor will take care of my descendants.' It is the benevolence of a lifetime. Confucius said: "Benevolence is a heavy tool, and its path is far. Those who raise it cannot overcome it, and those who walk it cannot reach it. Those who take the most are benevolent. Isn't it difficult to be diligent in benevolence? Therefore, if a gentleman judges people by righteousness, it is difficult for him to be a man; If you look at people by their own standards, you will know that they are virtuous. ” The Master said, “There is only one person in the world who is at peace with his heart and who is benevolent. The Great Odes say, ‘Virtue is as light as a feather, and few people can raise it. I have tried to imitate it, but only Zhongshanfu raised it, and no one helped me with love. ’” The Lesser Odes say, ‘High mountains are admired and admired, and beautiful conduct is observed and admired. ’ The Master said, “The love of benevolence in the Book of Poetry is like this: He walks in the direction of the road, but gives up halfway. He forgets his old age, does not know that his years are insufficient, and bows his head day by day, working hard until he dies.” The Master said, “Benevolence has been difficult to achieve for a long time! Everyone loses what he likes; therefore, the mistakes of the benevolent are easily abandoned.” The Master said, “Respect is close to propriety, frugality is close to benevolence, and trustworthiness is close to affection. If one practices this with respect and humility, even if he makes mistakes, they will not be too serious. Respect is less likely to make mistakes, affection is trustworthy, and frugality is easy to tolerate. Are those who make mistakes because of this not rare? The Book of Poetry says, ‘A gentle and respectful person is the foundation of virtue. ’” The Master said, “Benevolence has been difficult to achieve for a long time, but only a gentleman can do it. Therefore, a gentleman does not make himself suffer for what he can do, nor does he make others ashamed for what they cannot do. Therefore, the sage’s way of governing behavior is not to control himself, but to make people feel ashamed and encouraged to act according to their words. He regulates people with etiquette, binds people with trust, decorates their appearance with clothes, and makes friends with them. He wants the people to be united. The Xiaoya says: “Do not be ashamed of others, and do not fear the heaven.” Therefore, when a gentleman wears his clothes, he should decorate his appearance with a gentleman’s appearance; when he has his appearance, he should decorate his words with a gentleman’s words; when he speaks, he should be sincere with a gentleman’s virtue. Therefore, a gentleman is ashamed to wear his clothes without his appearance, to have his appearance without his words, to have his words without his virtue, and to have his virtue without his behavior. Therefore, when a gentleman wears mourning clothes, he has a look of sorrow; when he wears a crown, he has a look of respect; when he wears armor, he has a look of not wanting to be humiliated. The Book of Songs says: “Only the pelican on the beam does not wet its wings; the son of the record does not match his clothes. ’”

Remarry a young husband

When the wife is about to give birth to a child, and the month is coming, she will live in the side room. The husband will send someone to ask her twice a day. She will get up and ask herself. The wife dare not see her. She will ask her mother to dress and answer. When the child is born, the husband will send someone to ask her twice a day. The husband will not enter the side room when he is ready. When the child is born, men will set up bows on the left side of the door, and women will set up veils on the right side of the door. After three days, they will start to carry the child. Men will shoot women. When the king's heir is born, he will inform the king and receive a large sacrifice. The butler will be in charge of the preparations. After three days, the fortune teller will carry the child. The lucky person will stay outside the bedroom door in the morning clothes. The poet will carry the child and shoot people with mulberry bows and six arrows. Shoot the four directions of heaven and earth. The butler will carry the child. The butler will carry the child and give him a bundle of silk. The fortune teller's wife and the official's concubine will feed the child. Whenever a child is received, a day is chosen. For a child born in the twelfth month, a large sacrifice is given. For common people, a pig is given. For scholars, a pig is given. For officials, a small sacrifice is given. For the prince's son, a large sacrifice is given. For those who are not born in the twelfth month, the sacrifice is reduced by one level. The child is placed in a room in the palace. From the various mothers and suitable ones, the one who is generous, kind, gentle, respectful, cautious and taciturn is selected to be the child's teacher. The next best is the loving mother. The next best is the nanny. They all live in the child's room. Others do not go there unless there is something to do. At the end of March, a day is chosen to cut the hair into a bun. The boy's hair is tied in a corner and the girl's hair is tied in a bun. Otherwise, the boy's hair is tied on the left and the girl's hair is tied on the right. On this day, the wife presents the child to the father. The nobles dress the children. From the officials and below, everyone washes their hair. Men and women get up early, bathe, dress, and prepare food for the first day of the month. The husband enters the room and ascends the steps to the east. He stands in the west of the east. The wife holds the child out of the room and stands in front of the lintel facing east. The mother-in-law said, "Mother, I dare not use the time to see the child." The husband replied, "The emperor has a general." The father held the son's right hand, coughed and named him. The wife replied, "I have written it down." Then he turned his left hand back and gave it to the teacher. The son's teacher told the names of all the wives and mothers, and the wife went to bed. The husband told the name of the prime minister, and the prime minister told the names of all the men. They wrote: "Born on such and such a day in such and such a year." Then they hid it. The prime minister told the village historian. The village historian wrote two books, one of which was hidden in the village government and the other was presented to the state historian. The state historian presented it to the state earl, and the state earl ordered it to be hidden in the state government. The husband went to eat as if he was raising a child. When the prince was born, the king bathed and dressed in court clothes, and the wife did the same. They all stood on the west side of the steps. The wife of the prince held the child and went up from the west steps. The king named him and then went down. When the son and the concubine met in the outer bedroom, they stroked their heads and coughed and named them. The etiquette was the beginning of the general, and there was no remark. In naming a son, one should not use the date or month, state or hidden illness as the name; the son of an official or scholar should not have the same name as the crown prince. When a concubine is about to give birth to a son, and the month and day are up, the husband should have someone ask about it every day. At the end of the third month, the son should wash his head and get ready in the morning, and be seen in the inner bedroom, with the same etiquette as when he first enters the room. After the king has finished eating, he should be allowed to eat before entering the palace. When a son of a duke or a concubine is born, he should go to a concubine's room. At the end of the third month, his mother should bathe and wear court clothes and go to the king. The banished son should go to the king with his son, and the king should give him a name according to the king's gifts. If there are multiple sons, the officials should name them. If a commoner does not have a concubine, and the month and day are up, the husband should go out to live in the group room, and the way he asks about his son should be the same as the way a son goes to his father. When the father is alive, the grandson should go to the grandfather, and the grandfather should also name him, with the same etiquette as a son goes to his father, without any excuse. A son who feeds his son should go out after three years, and if he is seen in the palace of the duke, he should be punished. The son of an official should feed his mother, and the wife of a scholar should raise her son herself. The sons of officials above the rank of a rank and above, and of officials, are to be seen every ten days. When a son of a family is seen before he has eaten, he must hold his right hand. When a son of a concubine is seen after he has eaten, he must touch his head. When a son can eat, he is taught to eat with his right hand. When a son can speak, he is only allowed to hold his right hand, while a son is allowed to hold his right hand. A son is allowed to wear a leather belt, while a daughter is allowed to wear a silk belt. At the age of six, he is taught the numbers and names of the directions. At the age of seven, men and women are not allowed to sit at the same table, nor to eat together. At the age of eight, when they enter and leave the house or eat at a table, they must follow the elders, and they are taught to yield. At the age of nine, they are taught for several days. At the age of ten, they are to go out to a tutor, live and sleep outside, learn to write and calculate, wear a silk jacket or trousers, and learn the etiquette of the young day and night. Please study and understand. At the age of thirteen, they learn music, recite the Book of Songs, and dance the Spoon. When they become children, they dance the Elephant, and learn archery and charioteering. At the age of twenty, they are allowed to wear fur and silk, dance the Great Summer, and practice filial piety and brotherhood. They are knowledgeable but not taught, and stay at home. At the age of thirty, they are allowed to have a wife, and they are allowed to manage male affairs. They are knowledgeable but have no method, and their grandchildren look at their ambitions. At forty, one begins to serve in the government. One must make plans and consider the situation. If one agrees with the way, one must obey. If one disagrees, one must leave. At fifty, one must be appointed as a senior official and serve in the government. At seventy, one must start work. All men worship with the left hand. For a girl who has not been out for ten years, her mother will teach her to be gentle and obedient. She must handle hemp and linen, process silk cocoons, weave ropes, learn women's affairs, share clothes, watch sacrifices, offer wine, food, and pickles, and help with offerings. At fifteen, she comes of age. At twenty, she gets married. If she has a wife, she gets married at twenty-three. If she marries, she becomes a wife. If she runs away, she becomes a concubine. All women worship with the right hand.

Princess reaction

Han Kangbo and Xie Xuan did not have a deep relationship. After Xuan's expedition to the north, people on the street suspected that he would not be able to recover. Kang Bo said, "This man loves fame, so he must be good at fighting." Xuan was very angry when he heard this, and often said in front of the crowd with a stern face, "A man who leads a thousand soldiers into a deadly situation to serve his lord and parents should not talk about fame anymore."

Peking University poor student

Pei Chenggong wrote Chongyoulun, which was criticized by people at that time, but no one could refute it. Only Wang Yifu came, like Xiao Qu. People at that time found it difficult to justify Wang Li, but Li was reiterated.