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The General's Wife

When Liu Yu and his brothers were young, they were hated by Wang Kai, who once summoned them to stay overnight, intending to get rid of them silently. He ordered them to bury him in a mortar, and after that he would be harmed. Shi Chong was on good terms with Yu and Kun. When he heard that they were staying with Kai, he knew that something might happen, so he went to Kai at night to ask where the two Lius were. Kai had no choice but to hide the truth, and answered, "I am sleeping in the back room." Shi then went straight in, led him out, and left in the same carriage. As the saying goes: "Young man, why do you so easily accept someone's accommodation?"

A warm marriage between a wealthy family and a wealthy wife

The Master said: “Benevolence has numbers, and righteousness has lengths, shortnesses, smallnesses, and greatnesses. To be indifferent in the heart is to love the benevolence of others; to follow the law and strengthen it is to have resources The benevolent man. The Book of Songs says: 'There is a mulberry tree in Fengshui, how could King Wu not serve? He passed on his plan to his grandson and swallowed his son. King Wu was so kind!' It is the benevolence of several generations. The Guofeng says: 'I am not going to review it now, but the emperor will take care of my descendants.' It is the benevolence of a lifetime. Confucius said: "Benevolence is a heavy tool, and its path is far. Those who raise it cannot overcome it, and those who walk it cannot reach it. Those who take the most are benevolent. Isn't it difficult to be diligent in benevolence? Therefore, if a gentleman judges people by righteousness, it is difficult for him to be a man; If you look at people by their own standards, you will know that they are virtuous. ” The Master said, “There is only one person in the world who is at peace with his heart and who is benevolent. The Great Odes say, ‘Virtue is as light as a feather, and few people can raise it. I have tried to imitate it, but only Zhongshanfu raised it, and no one helped me with love. ’” The Lesser Odes say, ‘High mountains are admired and admired, and beautiful conduct is observed and admired. ’ The Master said, “The love of benevolence in the Book of Poetry is like this: He walks in the direction of the road, but gives up halfway. He forgets his old age, does not know that his years are insufficient, and bows his head day by day, working hard until he dies.” The Master said, “Benevolence has been difficult to achieve for a long time! Everyone loses what he likes; therefore, the mistakes of the benevolent are easily abandoned.” The Master said, “Respect is close to propriety, frugality is close to benevolence, and trustworthiness is close to affection. If one practices this with respect and humility, even if he makes mistakes, they will not be too serious. Respect is less likely to make mistakes, affection is trustworthy, and frugality is easy to tolerate. Are those who make mistakes because of this not rare? The Book of Poetry says, ‘A gentle and respectful person is the foundation of virtue. ’” The Master said, “Benevolence has been difficult to achieve for a long time, but only a gentleman can do it. Therefore, a gentleman does not make himself suffer for what he can do, nor does he make others ashamed for what they cannot do. Therefore, the sage’s way of governing behavior is not to control himself, but to make people feel ashamed and encouraged to act according to their words. He regulates people with etiquette, binds people with trust, decorates their appearance with clothes, and makes friends with them. He wants the people to be united. The Xiaoya says: “Do not be ashamed of others, and do not fear the heaven.” Therefore, when a gentleman wears his clothes, he should decorate his appearance with a gentleman’s appearance; when he has his appearance, he should decorate his words with a gentleman’s words; when he speaks, he should be sincere with a gentleman’s virtue. Therefore, a gentleman is ashamed to wear his clothes without his appearance, to have his appearance without his words, to have his words without his virtue, and to have his virtue without his behavior. Therefore, when a gentleman wears mourning clothes, he has a look of sorrow; when he wears a crown, he has a look of respect; when he wears armor, he has a look of not wanting to be humiliated. The Book of Songs says: “Only the pelican on the beam does not wet its wings; the son of the record does not match his clothes. ’”

Legend of Bones

The Master said: "What is etiquette? It is the management of affairs. The gentleman has his affairs, and he must manage them. To govern the country without etiquette is like a blind man without friends. What can the entourage do? It is like someone who seeks in a dark room all night, how can he see without a candle? If there is no etiquette, then the hands and feet will not be able to move, the ears and eyes will not be able to add, and the advance and retreat, bowing and yielding will not be controlled. Therefore, if it is used in the residence, the elder and the younger will lose their distinction; the boudoir and the three clans will lose their harmony; the court and the official titles will lose their order; hunting and military affairs will lose their strategies; the army and military achievements will lose their rules; the palace will lose its measure; the tripod will lose its image; the food will lose its time; the music will lose its mode; the car will lose its style; the ghosts and gods will lose their feast; the funeral will lose its sorrow; the debate will lose its party; the official will lose its form; the government affairs will lose its implementation; it will be imposed on the body and mishandled in front, and all the actions of the crowd will lose their appropriateness. In this way, there is no way to reconcile with the crowd. ”

First time reward

Wei Boyu was the Minister of the Chancellery. He saw Le Guang talking with famous scholars in the imperial court. He was surprised and said, "Since the death of these scholars, I have always been afraid that their opinions would be lost. Now I hear such opinions from you again!" He ordered his sons and daughters to find him and said, "This man is a mirror among people. Seeing him is like seeing the blue sky through the clouds and mist."

The First Lady of the Golden Age

My dear president husband, I love you so much!

Sun Changle wrote Wang Chang's history and said, "I and my husband are not snobbish in their dealings, their hearts are like clear water, and they have the same mysterious taste."