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Urban Cohabitation Story

The Master said, "A gentleman does not use words to exhaust people. Therefore, when the world is governed by the Way, then actions have branches and leaves; when the world is not governed by the Way, then words have branches and leaves. Therefore, when a gentleman is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a gift, he does not ask what he spends; when a sick person is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a meal, he does not ask what he wants; when a guest is at a guest's house and cannot provide him with a guest, he does not ask where he stays. Therefore, the reception of a gentleman is like water, while that of a villain is like sweet wine; a gentleman is indifferent to success, while a villain is willing to be ruined. Xiaoya says: "A thief's words are sweet, and chaos is caused by glutinous rice." Confucius said: "A gentleman does not praise others with his words, so the people will be loyal. Therefore, a gentleman asks people if they are cold, then he clothes them; asks people if they are hungry, then he feeds them; praises people's beauty, then he gives them a title. Guofeng says: "The heart is worried, so I will go home and be happy." Confucius said: "If the mouth is good but the deeds are not fulfilled, resentment will come to the body. Therefore, a gentleman would rather have resentment than have a promise. Guofeng says: "Talking and laughing slowly, keeping promises, not thinking about the return; if you don't think about the return, what's the point!" Confucius said: "A gentleman does not get close to people with his appearance; if he is distant in affection but close in appearance, is he a thief who robs houses?" Confucius said: "The feelings should be trustworthy, and the words should be clever. ”

Rebirth of the Concubine Queen

When Zhuge Liang camped at Weibin, Guanzhong was shaken. Emperor Ming of Wei was deeply afraid that King Xuan of Jin would go to war, so he sent Xin Pi as the military commander. King Xuan and Liang set up their camps across the Wei River. Liang devised all kinds of enticements and schemes. King Xuan was indeed very angry and was about to respond with a large army. Liang sent spies to investigate, and they reported: "There is an old man who resolutely holds a yellow axe and stands at the gate of the army. The army cannot leave." Liang said: "This must be Xin Zuozhi."

The Strongest Son-in-Law

In his later years, General Xi loved to talk. Although the topics were elegant and beyond his experience, he was very proud of them. Later, when he went to the court, he thought that Prime Minister Wang was very hateful in his later years, so every time he saw him, he would want to give him a stern warning. The princes knew his meaning and often quoted it as another saying. Before returning to the town, he ordered his carriage to meet the Prime Minister. The Prime Minister raised his beard and looked stern. As soon as he sat down, he said, "We are about to part ways, and I must tell you what I see." His words were full of seriousness and his manner was unsound. Wang Gongshe was the next one and said, "We don't know what will happen next, and I also want to express my feelings. I hope you won't talk about it anymore." Xi then became very angry, and left with a cold collar, without saying a word.

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A virtuous wife stops at courtesy

Ziyun: "The etiquette of the guest always advances to show respect, and the funeral etiquette always adds distance." Bathing in the middle stream, eating under the window, small burial inside the door, large burial on the east side, funeral in the guest seat, ancestral worship in the courtyard, burial in the tomb, so as to show distance. The Yin people mourned at the grave, and the Zhou people mourned at home, showing that the people were not rebellious. Ziyun: "Death is the final service of the people, I follow Zhou." Because of this, there are still princes who died without burial. Ziyun: "Ascending from the guest steps, receiving condolences at the guest seat, teaching the people to pursue filial piety." Not calling the king before the death shows that the people are not quarrelsome. Therefore, the "Spring and Autumn Annals" of Lu recorded the funeral of Jin and said: "Kill the son of the king Xiqi and his king Zhuo." Because of this, there are still sons who kill their fathers.