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Love in troubled times

The Master said, "A gentleman does not use words to exhaust people. Therefore, when the world is governed by the Way, then actions have branches and leaves; when the world is not governed by the Way, then words have branches and leaves. Therefore, when a gentleman is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a gift, he does not ask what he spends; when a sick person is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a meal, he does not ask what he wants; when a guest is at a guest's house and cannot provide him with a guest, he does not ask where he stays. Therefore, the reception of a gentleman is like water, while that of a villain is like sweet wine; a gentleman is indifferent to success, while a villain is willing to be ruined. Xiaoya says: "A thief's words are sweet, and chaos is caused by glutinous rice." Confucius said: "A gentleman does not praise others with his words, so the people will be loyal. Therefore, a gentleman asks people if they are cold, then he clothes them; asks people if they are hungry, then he feeds them; praises people's beauty, then he gives them a title. Guofeng says: "The heart is worried, so I will go home and be happy." Confucius said: "If the mouth is good but the deeds are not fulfilled, resentment will come to the body. Therefore, a gentleman would rather have resentment than have a promise. Guofeng says: "Talking and laughing slowly, keeping promises, not thinking about the return; if you don't think about the return, what's the point!" Confucius said: "A gentleman does not get close to people with his appearance; if he is distant in affection but close in appearance, is he a thief who robs houses?" Confucius said: "The feelings should be trustworthy, and the words should be clever. ”

Late Love (Part 1)

Morality, benevolence and righteousness cannot be achieved without propriety, and teaching and correcting customs cannot be achieved without propriety. When resolving disputes, do not make the decision without proper etiquette. The relationship between the ruler and his subjects, father and son, and brothers cannot be determined without propriety. When an official studies or serves a teacher, he should not be close to him without proper etiquette. When Ban Chao governs the army and takes office to enforce the law, he must act with propriety and dignity. Praying to temples and offering sacrifices to ghosts and gods are not polite, sincere or solemn. Therefore, a gentleman is respectful, frugal, and yielding in order to show courtesy. Parrots can speak, but they are still birds; orangutans can speak, but they are still animals. People nowadays are rude, even if they can speak, don’t they have the heart of beasts? Only animals are so undisciplined that fathers and sons live together. Therefore, the sages created rituals to teach people. Teach people to be polite and know how to distinguish themselves from animals.

The men of the underworld daughter

Wang Junchong and Pei Shuze, both children, went to see Zhong Shiji. After he left, the guest asked Zhong, "What do you think of the two boys?" Zhong said, "Pei Kai is clear and fluent, and Wang Rong is conscientious. In twenty years, these two wise men will become the Minister of Personnel. I hope that there will be no more talents left in the world by then."

Not your friend

Thunder

The sacrifices in the suburbs are special, and the sacrifices in the altars are large. When the emperor visits the princes, the princes use calves for meals; when the princes visit the emperor, the emperor gives them large sacrifices as a gift; this is the meaning of valuing sincerity. Therefore, the emperor does not eat pregnant animals, and does not use them in the sacrifice to the emperor. The main road has one tassel, the first road has three tassels, and the second road has five tassels. The blood in the suburbs, the fishy offerings, three offerings are roasted, and one offering is cooked; the most respectful offerings do not taste but value the smell. When the princes are guests, they use Yuchang. The offerings are used to smell. At the grand feast, the slender and the well-bred are valued. At the grand feast, the king sits on three layers of seats and offers vinegar. At the three offerings, the king sits on a single seat and offers vinegar. This is to lower the noble to the humble. There is music in the feasts and sacrifices, but there is no music in the tastings, which is the meaning of yin and yang. All drinks nourish the yang energy; all foods nourish the yin energy. Therefore, the spring sacrifices are held and the autumn tastings are held; in spring, the orphans are feasted, and in autumn, the elderly are fed.矣。 吟， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， 阳， Duke Huan of Qi started it. The performance of "Si Xia" by the ministers was started by Zhao Wenzi. The court audience is a private audience by the ministers, which is not a courtesy. The ministers hold the jade tablets and go on missions to show their trust; they dare not meet privately, so as to show respect; but they meet privately in the court, why do they do it in the court of the princes? As ministers, they have no foreign relations and dare not be two-minded. It is not a courtesy for the ministers to entertain the king. If the ministers force the king to kill them, it is righteousness; it was started by the Three Huans. The emperor has no guest etiquette, and no one dares to be the host. When the king meets his ministers, he ascends from the steps of the east and dares not have his room. In the audience ceremony, the emperor does not go down the hall to meet the princes. Going down the hall to meet the princes is a violation of etiquette by the emperor, starting from King Yi and below. In the palaces of the princes, they offer sacrifices with white peons, beat jade chimes, set red stems and tin, wear crowns and dance "Da Wu", and ride on the main road. This is the usurpation of etiquette by the princes. , embroidered fu, red and red inner garment, this is the usurpation of etiquette by the officials. Therefore, when the emperor is weak, the princes usurpation; when the officials are strong, the princes threaten. In this way, they honor each other by rank, meet each other with goods, bribe each other for profit, and the etiquette of the world is in chaos. The princes dare not worship the emperor, and the officials dare not worship the princes. And the public temple is set up in private homes, which is not etiquette, and it started with the Three Huans.

Rich Marriage

Huan Xuan went to Yin in Jingzhou. Yin was sleeping during the day in his concubine's room, and his attendants refused to see him. When Queen Huan mentioned this, Yin said, "I didn't sleep at first. Even if there was this, wouldn't it be 'the virtuous can change the color'?"