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Smelled the fragrance of flowers

The Journey of Flower

It is said that to govern a country, you must first manage your family. There is no one who cannot teach his family but can teach others. Therefore, a gentleman does not leave home but teaches the country. Filial piety is the way to serve the king; respect for elders is the way to serve the elders; kindness is the way to lead the people. "Kang Gao" said: "It is like protecting a baby. "If you seek it with a sincere heart, even if you don't get it, you won't be far away. There has never been anyone who learned to raise a child before getting married. If one family is benevolent, the whole country will be benevolent; if one family is courteous, the whole country will be courteous; if one person is greedy and violent, the whole country will be in chaos. The mechanism is like this. This is what is meant by one word ruining things, and one person establishing a country. Yao and Shun led the world with benevolence, and the people followed them. Jie and Zhou led the world with violence, and the people followed them. What they ordered was contrary to what the people liked, and the people did not follow them. Therefore, a gentleman should have it in himself before seeking it in others, and not have it in himself before criticizing others. There has never been anyone who can persuade others with what he does not forgive. Therefore, governing a country starts with managing his family. The Book of Songs says, "The peach tree is young and tender, and its leaves are dense. The daughter is married, and she is a good wife." Only when she is a good wife can she teach the people of the country. The Book of Songs says, "Be a good brother and a good younger brother." Only when she is a good brother and a good younger brother can she teach the people of the country. The Book of Songs says, "Its etiquette is not wrong, and it is right for the four countries. ” He who is a father, son, and brother is a model, and then the people can follow it. This is what is meant by governing a country in order to regulate the family.

The official wife

When serving food to a gentleman, eat first and then stop; do not leave the food or drink it fluently; eat small portions and quickly; do not eat too much. The guest should drink by himself and stop when he says goodbye. The guest's cup should be on the left, and his drink should be on the left. Right; the jiejue, zujue, and xujue are all on the right. When offering fish, the tail is served; in winter, the fat is served on the right, and in summer, the fin is served on the right; when offering meat. In all cases, hold it with the right and place it on the left. Offer money from the left, and edict from the right. Servant of the corpse is like servant of the king. When in the car, hold the reins with the left and receive the jug with the right, and drink from the left and right. When offering sacrifices, offer sacrifices inside the sacrificial table. Gentlemen do not eat meat. Young men walk but do not rush, and when offering, sit down and drink when offering. When washing, wash your hands. Lungs of cattle and sheep , leaving without lifting the heart. All the dishes with scallions are not to be taken together. Choosing onions and scallions for a gentleman cuts off the root and the end. For the dish head, offer the beak to the ear. The left of the drinker is the highest dish. The pottery is facing the nose. Drinkers, those who worship, and those who offer sacrifices have to break the table and not sit down. Before stepping into the cup, do not taste the dishes. The fishy smell of cattle, sheep, and fish is cut into sashimi; elk is pickled, wild boar is xuan, all of which are cut and not cut; deer is made into piji, rabbit is made into wanpi, all of which are cut and not cut. Cut the onion into pieces like scallions, and put them in a sauce to soften them. If there is a person who breaks the table, take the sacrificial lungs, turn them over, and do not sit; the same is true for burning. For corpses, sit.

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Why should we have a shallow relationship when love is deep?

Wang Hun's wife, Ms. Zhong, gave birth to a daughter, Lingshu. Wu Zi sought a beautiful and simple match for his sister but failed. There was a military son who was very talented. Wu Zi wanted to marry his sister to him, so he told his mother, "If he is truly talented, I can leave his land to him, but you have to let me see him." Wu Zi then let the soldier's son live with the other children and asked his mother to observe him from behind the curtain. Afterwards, his mother said to Wu Zi, "The one who wears clothes like this, is he the one you wanted to marry?" Wu Zi said, "Yes." His mother said, "This person has the talent to stand out, but the land is cold and he won't live long, so he can't make full use of his talent. Judging from his appearance and bones, he will not live long, so you shouldn't marry him." Wu Zi agreed. Bing'er died a few years later.

Don't become an immortal if you have attained the Tao

At the funeral of Sikou Huizi, Ziyou prepared hemp mourning clothes and hemp sash for him. Wen Zi declined, saying, "You are insulted to be with Mi Mou's brother You, and you are insulted to wear clothes for him. How dare you decline?" Ziyou said, "It is the rite." Wen Zi retreated and cried again. Ziyou hurried to the seats of the ministers. Wen Zi declined again, saying, "You are insulted to be with Mi Mou's brother You, and you are insulted to wear clothes for him, and you are insulted to attend his funeral. How dare you decline?" Ziyou said, "I insist on asking." Wen Zi retreated, helped Shi Zi to stand facing south, and said, "You are insulted to be with Mi Mou's brother You, and you are insulted to wear clothes for him, and you are insulted to attend his funeral. How dare you not return to your position?" Ziyou hurried to the guest seat. At the funeral of General Wenzi, after the mourning period was over, the people of Yue came to offer their condolences. The host wore a deep robe and a white cap, waited in the temple, weeping. Ziyou looked at him and said, "General Wen's son is almost a commoner! He is a man of honor who died according to the etiquette, and his actions are in the right place."