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Growing self-esteem

He Yan, Deng Yang and Xiahou Xuan all asked Fu Gu to make friends with them, but Gu finally refused. Everyone then united them based on Xun Can's advice and said to Gu, "Xiahou Taichu was an outstanding man of his time and was humble towards you, but you have the opposite intention. If you get along with him, things will go well, but if you don't, there will be rifts. If the two virtuous people are like Mu, the country will be at peace. This is why Lin Xiangru put Lian Po below him." Fu said, "Xiahou Taichu has great ambitions and is hardworking. He is able to win false praise. He is truly a man who can ruin a country with his eloquence. He Yan and Deng Yang are ambitious but impetuous, knowledgeable but not particular, greedy on the outside but indifferent on the inside, they value similarities and hate differences, they talk a lot and are jealous. They talk a lot and are provocative, and they are jealous and have no friends. In my opinion, these three virtuous people are all corrupt people! Even if you keep them at a distance, you may suffer disaster, let alone those who are approachable?" Later, all of them turned out as he said.

Spirit Farming Notes

After Duke Huan abolished Haixi and established Jianwen, the attendant Xie Gong met Duke Huan and paid homage to him. Huan was surprised and laughed, "Anshi, what brings you here?" Xie replied, "I have never seen a king bow before me and a minister stand behind me!"

Fortunately, you came and I am still here

The Book of Songs says: "When wearing brocade, one should still wear a plain cloth." This is because it is disliked that the pattern is conspicuous. Therefore, the way of a gentleman is to be obscure but brighter day by day; the way of a villain is to be clear but disappear day by day. The way of a gentleman is to be indifferent but not disgusting, to be simple but elegant, to be warm but reasonable, to know the nearness of the far, to know the direction of the wind, to know the obviousness of the subtle, and to be able to enter virtue. The Book of Songs says: "Although he is hidden, he is also as bright as Confucius!" Therefore, a gentleman is not guilty when he examines himself, and has no evil in his ambition. What a gentleman cannot reach is what people cannot see! The Book of Songs says: "Even if the prime minister is in your room, he is not ashamed of the leaking roof." Therefore, a gentleman is respectful without moving, and trustworthy without speaking. The Book of Songs says: "When he reports a favor, he does not speak, and there is no dispute at the time." Therefore, a gentleman does not reward, but the people are encouraged, and does not get angry, but the people are as powerful as a sword. The Book of Songs says: "Don't show your virtue! The hundred officials will punish you." Therefore, a gentleman is sincere and respectful, and the world is peaceful. The Book of Songs says: "I have a clear mind, and I do not make loud noises or use color." Confucius said: "Sounds and colors are the least important in transforming the people." The Book of Songs says: "Virtue is like a hair." Even a hair has its own rules. The heaven's carriage is soundless and odorless, it is the ultimate!

Rebuilding the Immortal Record

King Wen of Jin had great merits and virtues, and he sat at the table with solemnity and respect, worthy of a king. Only Ruan Ji was sitting there, sitting cross-legged, whistling and singing, feeling relaxed and at ease.

The Strongest Rich Man in the City

Marriage

When floods come, do not offer fish and turtles. If you offer birds, brush their heads; if you keep birds, do not brush them. Those who offer chariots and horses hold the whip and reins, those who offer armor hold the helmet, and those who offer a staff hold the end. Those who offered captives as tribute held their right sleeves. Those who offer millet hold the right contract, and those who offer rice hold the measuring drum. Whoever offers food should hold the sauce. Those who offer land and houses should do so in writing.