温碧霞床

Love the sky

Zilu said, "I heard from the Master that in funeral rituals, it is better to have more mourning than not mourning. In sacrificial rituals, it is better to have more respect than not respect."

Flat men and women

Zeng Zi asked: "After the wedding ceremony, the money is paid and there is an auspicious day, if the girl's parents die, what should be done?" Confucius said: "The husband sends condolences. If the husband's parents die, the girl's family also sends condolences. Father's death is called father, mother's death is called mother. If parents are not alive, uncle's mother is called. After the husband is buried, the husband's uncle tells the girl: 'So-and-so's son has lost his parents, and cannot be a brother, so-and-so tells the girl.' The girl agrees, but dares not marry. This is rite. The husband is exempted from mourning. The girl's parents send people to invite him, but the husband refuses to accept him, and then he marries her. This is rite. If the girl's parents die, the husband also does the same. "

Xu Shao dotes on his wife

When Su Jun was in chaos, all the Yu clans fled. When Yu Bing was the governor of Wu County, he fled alone, and all the people and officials left. Only the county soldier carried the ice out of Qiantangkou in a small boat, and Qu Shen overturned it. At that time, Jun offered a reward to recruit people to find ice, and the search was very urgent everywhere. The soldier left the boat and went to the market. He came back drunk and rowed towards the boat, saying, "Where can I find Yu Wujun? He is here." Bing was greatly frightened, but did not dare to move. The inspector saw that the boat was small and cramped, and thought that the soldiers were crazy and drunk, so he no longer suspected anything. He was sent to Zhejiang and sent to Wei's family in Shanyin, where he was saved. After the matter was settled, Bing wanted to avenge his soldiers, which was exactly what he wished. The soldier said, "I come from a servant family and don't want luxury. I suffered from whipping when I was young, and I'm always worried about not being able to drink happily. If I can drink enough for the rest of the year, I won't need any more." Bing built a big house for him, bought slaves, and kept a hundred hu of wine at the door for the rest of his life. At that time, it was said that this soldier was not only wise, but also understood life.

Marriage

Clouds moving in all directions

Have you heard of the rainy day?

A filial son must think about things in advance when he is about to offer sacrifices; he must prepare things in advance; he must be empty in order to manage them. After the palace is built, the walls and houses are built, and all the things are ready, the husband and wife take a bath together, wear the best clothes and flatter to offer the sacrifices. It is clear and orderly, as if he cannot overcome it or will lose it. Isn't this the deepest filial piety! The offerings and sacrifices are presented, the rituals and music are arranged, and the officials are prepared. Then they are presented with respect and respect. Then they are explained to the gods and spirits, so that they may be worshipped. "Maybe they may be worshipped" is the aspiration of the filial son. When the filial son offers sacrifice, he should be sincere and sincere, trustworthy and trustworthy, respectful and respectful, and ceremonial without going beyond the limit. He must be respectful when he advances and retreats, as if he were obeying orders from his parents, so that he may be ordered. The filial son's sacrifice is understandable. When he stands, he is respectful and humble, when he advances, he is respectful and happy, and when he offers, he is respectful and eager; when he retreats and stands, he is as if he is about to receive an order; when he has finished and retreats, he has a look of respect and courtesy on his face. When the filial son offers sacrifice, if he stands without bowing, he is stubborn; when he advances without happiness, he is distant; when he offers without desire, he does not love; when he retreats and stands, he is not as good as if he were ordered, he is arrogant; when he has finished and retreats, he has no look of respect and courtesy, and he has forgotten his origin. If he offers sacrifice in this way, he has failed. A filial son who has deep love must have a harmonious temperament; a harmonious temperament must have a happy expression; a happy expression must have a gentle expression. A filial son is like holding a jade, like offering a fullness, and is full of it, as if he cannot win, as if he is about to lose it. Sternness, dignity, and solemnity are not the way to serve one's parents, but the way to become an adult.