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The Domineering Prince of the Four Princesses

Lingxuan Lord

Xu Yuan once visited Jianwen. It was a windy and calm night with a bright moon, so they composed music and talked in the room. Expressing one’s inner thoughts is Xu’s forte. The words are clear and graceful, more than usual. Although Jianwen and he had always been in sync, this encounter was even more regrettable. Unconsciously they knelt down and spoke with their hands, and the conversation lasted until almost dawn. Then he said: "Xuan Du has great talent and sentiment, so it is not easy to give him many compliments."

Hua Jinnan

Respect, prudence, and correctness before treating each other with affection, is the general principle of etiquette, and it is the way to establish the distinction between men and women, and the righteousness of husband and wife. There is a distinction between men and women, and then there is righteousness between husband and wife; there is righteousness between husband and wife, and then there is affection between father and son; there is affection between father and son, and then there is affection between ruler and minister. Correct. Therefore, it is said that the wedding ceremony is the root of etiquette.

I have something in my heart but I have nothing to say to you

The Master said, "A gentleman does not use words to exhaust people. Therefore, when the world is governed by the Way, then actions have branches and leaves; when the world is not governed by the Way, then words have branches and leaves. Therefore, when a gentleman is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a gift, he does not ask what he spends; when a sick person is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a meal, he does not ask what he wants; when a guest is at a guest's house and cannot provide him with a guest, he does not ask where he stays. Therefore, the reception of a gentleman is like water, while that of a villain is like sweet wine; a gentleman is indifferent to success, while a villain is willing to be ruined. Xiaoya says: "A thief's words are sweet, and chaos is caused by glutinous rice." Confucius said: "A gentleman does not praise others with his words, so the people will be loyal. Therefore, a gentleman asks people if they are cold, then he clothes them; asks people if they are hungry, then he feeds them; praises people's beauty, then he gives them a title. Guofeng says: "The heart is worried, so I will go home and be happy." Confucius said: "If the mouth is good but the deeds are not fulfilled, resentment will come to the body. Therefore, a gentleman would rather have resentment than have a promise. Guofeng says: "Talking and laughing slowly, keeping promises, not thinking about the return; if you don't think about the return, what's the point!" Confucius said: "A gentleman does not get close to people with his appearance; if he is distant in affection but close in appearance, is he a thief who robs houses?" Confucius said: "The feelings should be trustworthy, and the words should be clever. ”

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Cozy Nest

Youzi and Ziyou stood and saw a young man admiring her. Youzi said to Ziyou, "I don't know why people dance in mourning. I have wanted to leave for a long time. Is it true that the emotion is here?" Ziyou said, "In etiquette, there are those who have subtle emotions, those who have things for a reason, and those who have direct emotions and act directly. This is the way of the barbarians. Etiquette is not like this. When people are happy, they are happy, and when they are happy, they sing. When they sing, they are hesitant. When they are hesitant, they dance. When they dance, they are upset. When they are upset, they are sad. When they are sad, they sigh. When they sigh, they are shy. When they are shy, they dance. , this is called etiquette. When a person dies, this is to hate it, and if you are incompetent, this is to betray it. Therefore, the quilt is made and the bamboo leaves are set, so that people will not hate it. When a person dies, dried meat and salted meat are offered as sacrifices; before the funeral, the person is sent to carry the body; after the funeral, the body is eaten, and no one has ever seen a feast. Since the ancient times, there has never been a place to keep it, so that people will not betray it. Therefore, what you criticize about etiquette is not a criticism of etiquette. "