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The daily life of a rich and noble woman

When Wang Xiaobo died, his head was hung on a big beam. Sima Taifu ordered his carriage to go out to the mark. When he saw the head of the enemy, he asked, "Why are you so anxious? Do you want to kill me?"

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Unnoticed

The clothes are on the body, but it is not known that they are called "wang". If there is no candle and someone comes later, tell the one who is there. The same is true for the blind. Whenever someone drinks wine and offers it to the host, hold the candle and hold it until it is burnt. The guest gets up and says goodbye, and then give it to others. Hold the candle and do not give way, do not say goodbye, and do not sing. Those who wash and wash their hands and eat and drink should not be angry. If asked, they should answer with their sleeves. Offering sacrifices to others is called "zhifu"; offering sacrifices to oneself and offering food to a gentleman is called "shan"; offering sacrifices to the gentleman is called "gao". Whenever a meal is reported to a gentleman, the host will unfold it and give it to the messenger to the south of the steps on the east side, and face south and bow twice to send it off; when the order is returned, the host will bow again and bow. The ritual: for a large sacrifice, use nine pieces of the left shoulder, arm, and leg of an ox; for a small sacrifice, use seven pieces of the left shoulder of a sheep; for a special pig, use five pieces of the left shoulder of a pig. If the country is not poor, then the chariots will not be carved, the armor will not be woven, the food utensils will not be engraved, the gentlemen will not wear silk shoes, and the horses will not be fed regularly.

Poverty Alleviation Expert

What is the three-year mourning period? It is said that it is to be established according to the feelings, so as to decorate the group, distinguish the relatives and the relatives, and practice the rules, but it cannot be increased or decreased. Therefore, it is said that there is no way to change. The wound is big and the time is long, and the pain is severe and the recovery is slow. The three-year mourning period is established according to the feelings, so as to be the most painful. Cutting the mourning clothes and wearing a stick, living in a lean-to, eating porridge, sleeping on straw and pillows, is to decorate the most painful. The three-year mourning period ends in twenty-five months; the grief is not over, the longing is not forgotten, but the mourning is ended in this way. Isn’t it that there is a limit to sending off the dead and a limit to reviving the living? All living creatures between heaven and earth, with blood and breath, must have knowledge, and all sentient creatures know how to love their own kind. Now, if a large bird or beast loses its flock, after a month or more, it will return to its hometown, fly back and forth, cry, hesitate, and then leave. Even small birds, such as sparrows, still chirp for a while before leaving. Therefore, no one with blood and breath knows better than humans, so humans love their relatives until death. If you are with a person who is obsessed with adultery, he will forget about his death in the morning and follow him in the evening, which is no better than birds and beasts. How can they live together without chaos? If you are with a gentleman who is well-mannered, the three-year mourning period will be completed in twenty-five months, like a team of horses passing through a gap, but it will continue, which is endless. Therefore, the ancient kings set up the middle and set rules for them, so that they can form a culture and reason, and then they will let it go.

Don't leave me

、、The scholar followed the acting master, facing north, and stood on the south side of the western steps. The chief priest wore a crown, held a bundle of silk, and ascended from the western steps in a row, but did not go up to the hall, and ordered no one to cry. He prayed three times and announced: "So-and-so's son is born, I dare to announce it." He ascended, placed money on the eastern table of the coffin, cried, and descended. All the masters, ministers, officials, and scholars in the room cried but did not dance. After mourning for a while, they returned to their seats. Then they offered sacrifices. The junior minister ascended and held money. On the third day, all the masters, ministers, officials, and scholars returned to their original seats, facing north. The chief minister, the chief clan, and the chief priest all wore crowns. The junior teacher presented the son in mourning clothes; the priest went first, the son followed, and the chief clan members followed. Entering the door, the crying stopped, and the son ascended from the western steps. He faced north in front of the coffin. The priest stood at the southeast corner of the coffin. He prayed three times: "So-and-so's son, following the steward, dare to see you." The son bowed and cried. Zhu, the prime minister, the clan members, all the masters, the ministers, the officials, and the scholars cried and danced three times, and then went down to the east and turned around, all bare-chested, and the son danced, and the people in the room also danced three times. Wearing mourning clothes, holding a stick, and offering sacrifices, the prime minister ordered the priest to announce the name to the five sacrifices, mountains and rivers. Zengzi asked, "If the crown prince is born after the burial, what should be done?" Confucius said, "The prime minister and the clan leader will follow the prime minister to announce the name to the gods. After three months, the name will be announced to the gods, and the name will be announced to the gods, the ancestral temples, the mountains and rivers."

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Xie Kun was the prefect of Yuzhang, and he was sent down to Shitou from the general's rank. Dun said to Kun, "I can no longer do anything virtuous." Kun said, "Why? From now on, I will just die and leave!" Dun again claimed illness and did not attend court. Kun told Dun, "Recently, although your actions are intended to preserve the country, your true intentions are not understood within the four seas. If you can attend court with the emperor, the ministers will be relieved and all things will be convinced. Rely on the people's support and follow their will, and retreat to serve the emperor. In this way, your achievements will be comparable to those of Yi Kuang, and your name will be passed down for thousands of years." People at that time regarded it as a famous saying.