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It is said that to govern a country, you must first manage your family. There is no one who cannot teach his family but can teach others. Therefore, a gentleman does not leave home but teaches the country. Filial piety is the way to serve the king; respect for elders is the way to serve the elders; kindness is the way to lead the people. "Kang Gao" said: "It is like protecting a baby. "If you seek it with a sincere heart, even if you don't get it, you won't be far away. There has never been anyone who learned to raise a child before getting married. If one family is benevolent, the whole country will be benevolent; if one family is courteous, the whole country will be courteous; if one person is greedy and violent, the whole country will be in chaos. The mechanism is like this. This is what is meant by one word ruining things, and one person establishing a country. Yao and Shun led the world with benevolence, and the people followed them. Jie and Zhou led the world with violence, and the people followed them. What they ordered was contrary to what the people liked, and the people did not follow them. Therefore, a gentleman should have it in himself before seeking it in others, and not have it in himself before criticizing others. There has never been anyone who can persuade others with what he does not forgive. Therefore, governing a country starts with managing his family. The Book of Songs says, "The peach tree is young and tender, and its leaves are dense. The daughter is married, and she is a good wife." Only when she is a good wife can she teach the people of the country. The Book of Songs says, "Be a good brother and a good younger brother." Only when she is a good brother and a good younger brother can she teach the people of the country. The Book of Songs says, "Its etiquette is not wrong, and it is right for the four countries. ” He who is a father, son, and brother is a model, and then the people can follow it. This is what is meant by governing a country in order to regulate the family.

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Mad God Road

Even after his parents die, if he wants to do good things and wants to bring good reputation to his parents, he will do it; if he wants to do bad things and wants to bring shame to his parents, he will not do it. When the uncle dies, the aunt will be old. The tomb-wife's sacrifices and guests must be asked to the aunt, and the intermediary woman must ask the tomb-wife. If the uncle and aunt use the tomb-wife, do not be lazy, be unfriendly and rude to the intermediary woman. If the uncle and aunt use the intermediary woman, do not dare to fight the tomb-wife, do not walk side by side, do not order her to do the same, and do not sit with her. All women should not leave unless they are ordered to go to the private room. If a woman has something to do, no matter how big or small, she must ask the uncle and aunt. The son's wife should not have private goods, private livestock, or private utensils. She should not borrow privately or give privately. If a woman gives food, clothing, cloth, pendants, or orchids to a man, he should accept them and offer them to his uncle and aunt. If the uncle and aunt accept them, they will be happy as if they had just received a gift. If they are given back, they should refuse and not be ordered. If they are given again, they should store them for future use. If a woman has a private brother who wants to give something, she must ask for the reason again and give it to him after he is given. Married sons and concubines only serve the eldest son and his wife. Even if they are rich, they dare not enter the eldest son's house with their wealth. Even if they have many carriages and servants, they should enter with a few. If the sons and younger brothers return utensils, clothing, furs, quilts, carriages and horses, they must offer the best ones before they dare to use the next best ones. If they are not offered, they dare not enter the eldest son's house with them, and dare not use their wealth to add to their father, brothers and clans. If they are rich, they should prepare two animals and offer the wisest one to the eldest son. The husband and wife should all be present and the clan should show respect. Only after the ceremony is over can they dare to offer sacrifices privately.

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Sacrifices have Zhaomu, which is to distinguish the order of father and son, distance, elder and younger, and closeness without disorder. Therefore, when there is an event in the Grand Temple, all the Zhaomu and Mu are present without losing their order. This is called the killing of closeness and distance. In ancient times, the king who knew the title of virtue and the salary of merit must be granted in the Grand Temple to show that he dare not monopolize. Therefore, on the day of the sacrifice, after one offering, the king descends and stands on the south of the steps of the east, facing south. The person who orders faces north, and the historian from the king's right holds the tablet and orders. He bows twice and kowtows. He receives the book and returns, and leaves the offering in his temple. This is the granting of titles and rewards. The king rolls up his crown and stands on the east, and the lady stands in the east room with a second veil. The lady offers the beans and holds the school, and holds the wine and gives it to the stirrup. When offering wine to a corpse, the wife holds the handle, and when receiving the corpse, the wife holds the foot. When a husband and wife give wine to each other, they do not take each other's place. When offering wine to each other, the wine must be exchanged. This is to make it clear that the husband and wife are different. When making a sacrifice, the bones are the main thing. Bones are of different ranks. The Yin people valued the thigh, the Zhou people valued the shoulder, and the front is more valuable than the back. The sacrifice is to make it clear that sacrifices must be benevolent. Therefore, the noble use noble bones, and the humble use humble bones. The noble are not heavy, and the humble are not empty, which shows equality. When benevolence is equal, politics will be carried out, politics will be carried out, and when things are accomplished, achievements will be made. The reason why achievements are made must not be unknown. The sacrifice is to make it clear that benevolence must be equal. A good politician does this, so it is said that the equality of politics and affairs can be seen here.