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The disease of the widow

Short should not show skin, long should not cover dirt. Continue the lapel, hook the edge. The seam should be halfway down; the height of the skirt should be enough to move the elbow; the length of the sleeve should be bent back to the elbow. The belt should not be too long below the thigh, and should not be too long above the ribs, and there should be no bones. Regulations: Twelve pieces should correspond to twelve months.

Farming: Becoming a gay husband

Please fall in love with me

The Master said, "A gentleman does not use words to exhaust people. Therefore, when the world is governed by the Way, then actions have branches and leaves; when the world is not governed by the Way, then words have branches and leaves. Therefore, when a gentleman is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a gift, he does not ask what he spends; when a sick person is at the side of a mourner and cannot give him a meal, he does not ask what he wants; when a guest is at a guest's house and cannot provide him with a guest, he does not ask where he stays. Therefore, the reception of a gentleman is like water, while that of a villain is like sweet wine; a gentleman is indifferent to success, while a villain is willing to be ruined. Xiaoya says: "A thief's words are sweet, and chaos is caused by glutinous rice." Confucius said: "A gentleman does not praise others with his words, so the people will be loyal. Therefore, a gentleman asks people if they are cold, then he clothes them; asks people if they are hungry, then he feeds them; praises people's beauty, then he gives them a title. Guofeng says: "The heart is worried, so I will go home and be happy." Confucius said: "If the mouth is good but the deeds are not fulfilled, resentment will come to the body. Therefore, a gentleman would rather have resentment than have a promise. Guofeng says: "Talking and laughing slowly, keeping promises, not thinking about the return; if you don't think about the return, what's the point!" Confucius said: "A gentleman does not get close to people with his appearance; if he is distant in affection but close in appearance, is he a thief who robs houses?" Confucius said: "The feelings should be trustworthy, and the words should be clever. ”

Meet you obediently

When Mu Bo died, Jing Jiang cried during the day; when Wen Bo died, she cried day and night. Confucius said, "You know etiquette."

God-level monks in the city

The mourner sits to the west of the gate, facing east; the intermediary is to the southeast, facing north and west, west of the gate. The host faces west. The minister receives the order and says, "I have sent someone to ask for something." The guest says, "My king has sent someone, how can it be wrong!" The minister goes in and reports, and comes out saying, "I have to go. "The mourners come in, and the host goes up to the hall, facing west. The mourners go up from the west steps, facing east, and say to the king: "My king heard of your death. My king appointed someone. How could it be wrong!" Zi bowed and kowtowed, and the mourners went down and returned to their seats. The bearer held the jade and was about to give orders, saying: "My king appointed someone to hold it." The assistant came in to report, and came out and said: "I am going to die." The bearer came in, went up to the hall, and gave orders. He bowed again and kowtowed. The bearer sat on the southeast side of the coffin, with a reed mat; after the burial, there was a cattail mat. He went down, went out, and returned to his seat. The prime minister put on court clothes, that is, mourning shoes, and went up from the west steps, facing west, and sat to take the jade, and went down from the east of the west steps. The cloaker said: "My king appointed someone to hold it." The assistant came in to report, and came out and said: "I am going to die." The cloaker held the crown and robes; the left held the collar, and the right held the key. He went in, went up to the hall, and said to the king: "My king appointed someone to hold it." "The son bows and kowtows. He leaves his clothes on the east side of the coffin. The attendant of the coffin steps down and receives the robes and caps of nobility at the gate. When he is about to give orders, the son bows and kowtows as before. He receives the leather caps and caps in the middle courtyard. He receives the court robes at the west steps and the black robes at the hall. When he is about to give orders, the son bows and kowtows as before. The attendant of the coffin steps down, goes out and returns to his seat. Five ministers carry him to the east. He descends from the west steps. They also carry him facing west. He presents the gift: holding the jade tablet and giving orders, he says, "My king has ordered me to present the gift." The prime minister goes in to report and returns with the order, saying, "I am gone." "The carriage of a yellow horse was arranged along the main road in the middle courtyard, with the chariot pointing north. Holding the jade tablet, the emperor was about to give orders. The guests and messengers came down from the west along the road. The son bowed and kowtowed, and sat down at the southeast corner of the coffin. The chief minister stood to the east. Whenever an order was to be given, the son bowed and kowtowed. He sat facing west and gave it to the emperor. The chief minister held up the jade tablet and the jade tablet, and the chief minister held up the robe, and they went up from the west steps, facing west, sat down to take them, and went down from the west steps. The bearer of the coffin went out and sat back outside the door. The guest of honor came in and said, "My king has matters to attend to at the ancestral temple, so he cannot serve. He has sent an old man to hold the sash." The bearer returned and said, "I will be gone." The person who came in entered the door on the right, and the bearers followed him and stood to the east of him on the left. The clan members received the guests, went up, and received the order from the king; when they came down, they said, "I dare not accept the humiliation of my son, and ask for your restoration." The guest replied, "My king has ordered me not to look at the guests, so I refuse. "The clan member replied, "I dare to firmly refuse the humiliation of my son and ask for your restoration." The guest replied, "My king ordered me not to look at the guests, so I dare to firmly refuse." The clan member replied, "I dare to firmly refuse the humiliation of my son and ask for your restoration." The guest replied, "My king ordered me not to look at the guests, so I dare to firmly refuse. I refused but was not ordered, so I dare not disrespectfully obey. "The guest stood on the west side of the gate, and the assistant stood on his left, going up to the east. The sovereign descended from the steps of the east, bowed, and cried, and danced three times with the guest. The guest left and sent him outside the gate, bowing and bowing his head.

Return from afar

Zeng Zi asked, "When a envoy dies in his residence, etiquette says: public residences are restored, but private residences are not restored. In all countries where envoys are granted residences by officials, public residences are already public residences, so why do you say that private residences are not restored?" Confucius said, "What a good question! The homes of ministers, officials, and scholars are called private residences; public residences and official residences are called public residences. The restoration of public residences is what it means." Zeng Zi asked, "The lower dead: Tu Zhou buried in the garden, and then went there by carriage, because the road was close. Now the tomb is far away, how should it be buried?" Confucius said, "I heard Lao Dan say: In the past, Shi Yi had a son who died, which was the lower dead. The tomb was far away, and Zhao Gong asked him, 'Why don't you bury him in the palace? ' Shi Yi said, 'How dare I? ’ Duke Zhao told Duke Zhou about this, and Duke Zhou said, ‘Is it not possible?’ Shi Yi did it. The use of coffins and coffins for the deceased was first introduced by Shi Yi.