Milton

The journey home

Youzi and Ziyou stood and saw a young man admiring her. Youzi said to Ziyou, "I don't know why people dance in mourning. I have wanted to leave for a long time. Is it true that the emotion is here?" Ziyou said, "In etiquette, there are those who have subtle emotions, those who have things for a reason, and those who have direct emotions and act directly. This is the way of the barbarians. Etiquette is not like this. When people are happy, they are happy, and when they are happy, they sing. When they sing, they are hesitant. When they are hesitant, they dance. When they dance, they are upset. When they are upset, they are sad. When they are sad, they sigh. When they sigh, they are shy. When they are shy, they dance. , this is called etiquette. When a person dies, this is to hate it, and if you are incompetent, this is to betray it. Therefore, the quilt is made and the bamboo leaves are set, so that people will not hate it. When a person dies, dried meat and salted meat are offered as sacrifices; before the funeral, the person is sent to carry the body; after the funeral, the body is eaten, and no one has ever seen a feast. Since the ancient times, there has never been a place to keep it, so that people will not betray it. Therefore, what you criticize about etiquette is not a criticism of etiquette. "

Deep flirting

Marrying into a wealthy family: fake becomes real

In mourning, the hair was tied with hemp; for the mother, the hair was tied with hemp, and the hair was loose and cloth was worn. In mourning, the hair was not worn with a hairpin to end the mourning. Men wore a cap and women wore a hairpin, men wore a hairpin and women wore a hairpin. Its meaning: for men, it was loose, and for women, it was a hairpin. Zhuzhang is bamboo; xuzhang is tung. After the grandfather died, the next year was three years after the grandmother. For parents, the eldest son bowed his head. When a senior official offers condolences, he must bow his head even if he is in mourning. A woman bows her head for her husband and the eldest son, but not for the rest. A male head must have the same surname as the head of the family, while a female head must have a different surname. A descendant of a father does not need to mourn for his mother. To be close to relatives, three is five, and five is nine. Kill the upper ones, the lower ones, and the side ones, and the close relatives are complete. The king shall offer sacrifices to the ancestor from whom he was born, and marry him with his ancestor, and establish four temples. The same is true for a concubine's son to be king. The son who is separated from the other is the ancestor, the one who succeeds the other is the clan leader, and the one who succeeds the niece is the minor clan leader. After five generations, the clan leader is moved to the clan leader, and he is the one who succeeds the great-grandfather. Therefore, the ancestor is moved to the upper one, and the clan leader is moved to the lower one. Respecting the ancestors means respecting the clan leader, and respecting the clan leader means respecting the ancestors and the niece. A concubine's son does not offer sacrifices to the ancestors, so that his clan leader is clear. A concubine's son is not beheaded for the eldest son, because he does not inherit the ancestors and the niece. A concubine's son does not offer sacrifices to the deceased or the one who has no descendants, because the deceased or the one who has no descendants is buried with the ancestors. A concubine's son does not offer sacrifices to the niece, so that his clan leader is clear. Love your relatives and respect your elders. The difference between men and women is the greatest of human nature.

Divorced couples

The Duke said, “Why don’t gentlemen today practice this?” Confucius said, “Gentlemen today are insatiable in their love of goods, untiring in their indulgence of virtue, idle and arrogant, and are sure to destroy the people. They use the people at noon to attack those who have the Way; they seek what they want, not what they should. In the past, people were used from the front, but now people are used from the back. Gentlemen today do not practice etiquette.”

Digging the Earth

He Piaoqi was the governor of Kuaiji, and Yu Cun's younger brother Jian was the county chief clerk. As He was exhausted from seeing guests, he wanted to report to the regular guests and asked his family members to restrain themselves and select those who were acceptable to him, and then report to Yu Cun. Cun Shi was Shangzuo He, who was having dinner with Jian. He said, "The funeral is very good. Wait until I finish eating and then tell me." After the meal, he took a pen and wrote the funeral, saying, "If I can find a family leader like Guo Linzong, I will do as you say. Where did you find this person?" Jian stopped there.

Small Town Killer

Emperor Wu of Jin asked Sun Hao, "I heard that people in the south like to compose songs like 'You'. Can you compose it?" Hao was drinking, so he raised his cup to persuade the emperor and said, "I was your neighbor in the past, and now I am your subject. I'll give you a cup of wine, and may you live forever." The emperor regretted it.