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Marriage is like still water: Mr. Jiang, please respect yourself

Confucius was sitting with Duke Ai, who said, “May I ask who is the most important in human nature?” Confucius looked sad and replied, “Your Majesty, when you said this, it is the virtue of the people! How dare I answer without words? In human nature, politics is the most important.” The Duke said, “May I ask what is politics?” Confucius replied, “Politics is justice. If the monarch is just, the people will follow politics. What the monarch does, the people will follow. What the monarch does not do, how can the people follow?” The Duke said, “May I ask how to govern?” Confucius replied, “Husband and wife are different, father and son are close, and monarch and minister are strict. Three If the ruler is upright, all things will follow him. "The Duke said, "Although I am not like you, I would like to hear the reason why I practice the Three Words. Can I hear it?" Confucius replied, "In ancient times, loving people was the most important thing in governing; the most important thing in governing people was courtesy; the most important thing in governing courtesy was respect; when respect is the highest, the great wedding is the greatest. The great wedding is here! When the great wedding is here, wearing a crown and welcoming the emperor in person is to be close to him. To be close to the emperor is to be close to the emperor. Therefore, a gentleman should promote respect as a way to be close to the emperor; abandoning respect is to abandon one's relatives. Without love, there is no closeness; without respect, there is no justice. Love and respect are the foundation of politics!" The Duke said, "I would like to have something to say. But wearing a crown and welcoming the emperor in person, isn't that too important?" Confucius looked sad and replied, "To unite the two families, to succeed the ancestors, to be the masters of the heaven, earth, ancestral temples, and the land, why do you say that it is too important?" The Duke said, "I am stubborn! If I am not stubborn, how can I hear such words? I want to ask, but I can't say it. Please come in a little bit!" Confucius said: "If heaven and earth are not united, all things cannot grow. The great marriage is the heir of ten thousand generations. Why do you think you are already so important?" Confucius then said: "If you govern the ancestral temple at home, you will be able to match the gods of heaven and earth; if you govern the country with the etiquette of speaking frankly, you will be able to establish respect between superiors and subordinates. Shame for things will be able to revive it, and shame for the country will be able to revive it. Governing starts with etiquette. Etiquette is the root of governance!" Confucius then said: "The governance of the wise kings of the Three Dynasties must respect their wives and children. There is a way. The wife is the master of the parents. How dare you not respect her? The son is the successor of the parents. How dare you not respect her? A gentleman respects everything, and respecting oneself is the most important. The body is the branch of the parents. How dare you not respect it? Failure to respect oneself hurts one's parents; hurting one's parents hurts the root; hurting the root, the branches will die. These three are the images of the people. One's body is as good as one's body, one's son is as good as one's son, and one's concubine is as good as one's concubine. If a king practices these three, then the world will be united. This is the way of the great king. In this way, the country will be in harmony. ”

Practicing anti-routine from Journey to the West

The curtain funeral is not an ancient practice, it started with Jing Jiang's crying for Mu Bo. Funeral is the utmost sorrow. To be moderate in sorrow is to adapt to changes; a gentleman remembers the one who started it. To return is the way to love to the utmost, with the heart of praying and worshiping; to look back to the ghosts is the way to seek the ghosts and gods; to face north is the meaning of seeking the ghosts. To bow and kowtow is to hide the utmost sorrow; to kowtow is to hide it very much. To eat rice and shellfish is to not bear to be empty; not to eat the way, but to use delicious food. To inscribe is to make a clear mark, because the dead are inseparable, so they are marked with flags. To love is to record; to respect is to do the best. Chong is to focus on the way, the Yin Dynasty focused on the emphasis; the Zhou Dynasty focused on the emphasis. Offering with plain utensils is because the living have a plain heart; only in the ritual of offering sacrifices, the host commits suicide; who knows that the gods also have a respectful heart. The jumping is the extreme of sorrow, and there is a calculation, so it is a moderation. Baring and pulling up hair are changes; anger is a change of sorrow. Removing ornaments is to remove beauty; baring and pulling up hair are to remove ornaments to the extreme. Baring something and wearing something are the moderation of sorrow. Burying with a hat and a shawl is the way to communicate with the gods, and there is a respectful heart. The Zhou people buried with a hat, and the Yin people buried with a shawl. The host and the mistress of the house are old, because they are sick, and the king ordered them to eat. Crying and going up to the hall is to return to what they have done; the mistress of the house is to return to what they have raised. Crying and mourning is the extreme of sorrow - it is lost, so it is serious. The Yin people mourned after the enfeoffment, and the Zhou people mourned and cried. Confucius said, "Yin is already sincere, I will follow Zhou." The burial place is in the north, which is the etiquette of the Three Dynasties, because it is a secluded place. After the enthronement, the host will present gifts and pray for the corpse of Su Yu. After the return of the mourning, the host and the officials will look at the sacrifice of Yu. The officials will place a few tables and offer sacrifices to the left of the tomb. Returning, the mourning will be performed at noon. The mourning is performed on the day of the burial, because it cannot bear to be away for a day. In this month, the sacrifice is replaced with the mourning. The end of the mourning is called the completion of the matter. On this day, the funeral sacrifice is replaced with the auspicious sacrifice. The next day, the grave is buried with the grandfather. The change to the auspicious sacrifice is the same as the grave. When it comes to the grave, it must be on this day - it cannot bear to have nothing to return to in a day. Yin was buried with silk, while Zhou was buried with tears. Confucius liked Yin. When the king came to the funeral of his minister, he used the witch to pray for peach and straw and held a spear - he hated it; it was different from the living. There is a way of death in the funeral. This is what the ancient kings found difficult to talk about. The morning of the funeral is to show filial piety to the deceased, and to mourn for the deceased. Therefore, the funeral should be held at the temple of the ancestors. In the Yin Dynasty, the ancestors were buried, and in the Zhou Dynasty, the deceased was buried.

The Great Master

The mourning clothes for the deceased are three liters, and after the mourning period, six liters of cloth and seven liters of cap are given; for the mother, four liters of mourning clothes for the deceased are given, seven liters of cloth and eight liters of cap are given. Remove the hemp and wear kudzu, and wear a three-layered kudzu belt. When the time comes for a minor funeral, wear a lanyard cap with a lanyard, but do not remove the sash. Men remove the head, and women remove the sash. Why do men remove the head? Why do women remove the sash? Men focus on the head, and women focus on the sash. Those who remove the heavy clothes first, and those who change clothes change to the light clothes. When the time comes for a major funeral, wear plain white and linen clothes. In the middle of the month, mourning is performed, and the mourning period is light, and everything is worn.

The Palace of Beauty: The Daughter of the Emperor

Xi Yin believed in Taoism very diligently and often suffered from abdominal discomfort, which could not be cured by any doctors. Hearing that Fakai was famous, he went to meet him. When he came, I took his pulse and said, "Your illness is caused by excessive diligence." I gave him a dose of soup. After taking it once, he had a large bowel movement and several pieces of paper as big as a fist were removed. When he cut them open, he found that they were the talisman he had taken before.

The boss's wife is not obedient

All the famous scholars went to Luo River to play. When he returned, the music director asked Wang Yifu, "Did you have fun today?" Wang Yifu replied, "Pei Pushe is good at talking about logic and philosophy, and his words are elegant; Zhang Maoxian's discussion of history and the Han Dynasty is fascinating; Wang Anfeng and I talked about Yanling and Zifang, and our discussions were also profound."